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Anonymous asked: Advice for 2 people who love but drive each other absolutely insane/to tears? >.<

Love until you cannot love any longer.

Anonymous asked: My daddy just died. Now I feel empty. I wanna die too, kill myself, but I dont wanna leave my mom. Losing daddy really knocks her down, I cant imagine what will happen if I die too. I really dont know what to do :((

You have to live. But you now have to live for not only yourself, but for your father too. Live to make him proud of you, and your mother will be proud of you as well. 

Anonymous asked: How do you know if you like/love a person? What about infatuation? I don't want to take a wrong step and hurt the person. :(

There’s no defined answer for any of these as only time can tell for sure. But I’ll let you know how I differentiate between the three:

When I was in my last relationship, I could bear to see my lover come and go. Just knowing she was happy was nice. But I didn’t mind her leaving. I knew that I liked her and that was all.

Infatuation is more like ‘temporarily liking someone’. You may not know them very well but still feel very attached; but the feeling will fade quickly — incredibly quickly. However, don’t mistake infatuation for the honeymoon stage of a relationship.

When I first knew that I was in love, my girlfriend and I were fighting. Things got really heated and then the conversation stopped. I realized at that moment that I couldn’t imagine life without her in it, I knew then and there that I loved her.

Anonymous asked: I love my boyfriend, but I wish he'd do something about his breath/BO. Is there any way I can bring the issue up without it being awkward or demeaning?

The key for a long-lasting relationship is communication. You need to sincerely tell him what makes you uncomfortable and if he cares about you enough he should realize that change is necessary.

Anonymous asked: I had a best friend in high school. We had a fight sometime before graduation and I haven't talked to her since then. Not even on facebook. She kept sending me stupid messages like "did i do something wrong?", "why wont you talk to me?" so I blocked her. A week ago, I unblocked her. Then I was scrolling through my facebook wall and found many posts from when we were still friends. I really miss her. But I don't think she will forgive me for kicking her out of my life just like that :(

If she still wants to be your friend, then she will. However, you must prepare yourself to endure the consequences of your actions. She may not want to be friends, she may not even like you. But hopefully she’ll want to make amends and have the friendship that you two shared in the past.

Anonymous asked: This is more for catharsis. I am "in love" with this guy, or maybe just the idea of him. I met him over the summer, liked him a lot, but things didn't work out like I had hoped. We ended things not on the best terms (aka not on my terms). I got over him, although I occasionally thought about him. Then I saw him again this winter and started thinking about him again. I guess the problem is that I have this weird hope that we're meant to be with no real basis for that thought. Strange, no?

Not strange at all, Miss. Emotions need no logical explanation for anything. I once had a fantastical relationship with a beautiful black woman whom I never shared more than a sentence with at a time. Give it time, I’m sure things will simmer down and you’ll forget him.

Anonymous asked: I have trust issues that come from always being the boring one that gets left behind, I never open up entirely to anyone and some days I'm not even sure I know myself. I have few close friends and the only friend I've ever had that I've actually dared to wholly trust, has started to turn away from me. I'm always left behind and I know that that's how it goes, but god, with this friend, my best friend, I won't be able to take it again. I can't get left behind again, not by him. It'll break me.

Anon, I have been where you are and I am so sorry that you are there. 

Remind this guy why you are best friends, plan an awesome day of awesomeness that you’ll both enjoy and just spend time together, help him remember how awesome you are and come back to his senses. 

- Cheri ♥

Anonymous asked: I think I'm still in love with my ex and I believe based on his actions that he is still in love with me but I can't be positive about it because he is very hot and cold. Our relationship lasted about 4 years and was long distance (which is part of the reason we broke up) but now I have the opportunity to move closer to him. When I do move, I'm wondering if I should try to speak with him and see if there is still a chance there or if I should just move on for good.

If you believe that he feels the same way that you feel, take a chance. Just be willing to accept his answer, regardless of whether it’s good or bad. Good luck, miss.

Anonymous asked: I just broke up with someone three months ago. Sometimes I feel there is a part of me that holds, like, a grudge? But she really is a witch! I hate her so much. Just thinking about my past with her makes me upset. What should I do? I still hate myself so much for ever letting her in my life and hurt me. My heart is full of hate. :'(

Let go of your hate. Think about what you did like about her. What attracted you to her? What features did she have that you’ll look for in another girl? Our brains have a tendency to focus on whatever we want them to. So if you have a problem with the past, it will supply you with hate. But if you accept the past and move on, it will give you love. I believe in forgiving, but not forgetting. You have to realize that not all people are angels, yourself included. Accept her mistakes, and your mistakes, and let go of what she was to you.

Anonymous asked: I left my boyfriend because he's way too good for me. I love him so much but I don't think someone as great as him deserve to be someone like me. I am so selfish and immature, and he's the opposite. He's just perfect. I hurt him a lot but he never mad at me. He always apologize for the mistakes he never done just so I stop being mad at him (although I'm mad for no reason!). I am everything to him, but I don't think I deserve him. I love him so much so I let him go. Is this the right thing to do?

In all honesty, there are very few relationships that have an equal amount of love. But know that not all love is the same, just as all people. Now you may love him differently than he loves you. But the key is that as long as you love each other, nothing else matters.